Saturday, December 31, 2005

My rate of life

This Is My Life, Rated
Life:
5.8
Mind:
5
Body:
5.7
Spirit:
6.3
Friends/Family:
5.1
Love:
2.1
Finance:
3.6
Take the Rate My Life Quiz




Analysis of Your Life Score Results

Your Life Analysis:

Life: Your life rating is a score of the sum total of your life, and accounts for how satisfied, successful, balanced, capable, valuable, and happy you are. The quiz attempts to put a number on the summation of all of these things, based on your answers. Your life score leaves room for improvement. You can make changes to improve your trouble areas, and this will bring you greater satisfaction. Focus on your weakest points and set about to change them. Do not delay your happiness and success. (Read more on improving your life)

Mind: Your mind rating is a score of your mind's clarity, ability, and health. Higher scores indicate an advancement in knowledge, clear and capable thinking, high mental health, and pure thought free of interference. Your mind score is not bad, but could be improved upon. Your mental health is not weak, but you are not achieving full mental clarity and function. Learn how to unclutter your mind. Keep learning, keep improving, continue moving forward. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the mind.

Body: Your body rating measures your body's health, fitness, and general wellness. A healthy body contributes to a happy life, however many of us are lacking in this area. Your body score is fairly average, which means there is room for improvement. Keep a focus on your physical health. Protect your body as it is your most valuable physical asset. Nutrition, stress reduction, and exercise are key. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the body.

Spirit: Your spirit rating seeks to capture in a number that elusive quality which is found in your faith, your attitude, and your philosophy on life. A higher score indicates a greater sense of inner peace and balance. Your spirit score leaves room for improvement. Consider making a concerted effort to redefine your attitudes and focus your beliefs. Boosting your spirit will lead to greater life satisfaction. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the spirit.

Friends/Family: Your friends and family rating measures your relationships with those around you, and is based on how large, healthy, and dependable your social network is. Your friends and family score is not bad but can be improved. Maintain your current social net, while you try to expand it. Try new things and form new friendships. You will be rewarded greatly.

Love: Your love rating is a measure of your current romantic situation. Sharing your heart with another person is one of life's most glorious, terrifying, rewarding experiences. Your love score is very low, indicating trouble. There is love out there for you. Seek the advice of wise people on how to go about finding it. Do not lose hope. Read advice from other quiz-takers on finding and maintaining love.

Finance: Your finance rating is a score that rates your current financial health and stability. Your financial score indicates some trouble. Raise your score over time by making changes which will lead to greater prosperity in the future. Be sure to live within your means today. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving your finances.

Saturday, November 12, 2005

An Article by Ajaan Chah

While reading an article from Ajaan Chah, I find that it is really useful to know more indepth of buddhism. Here are some inspriation which i find it very meaningfull.

Fragments of a Teaching

All of you have believed in Buddhism for many years now through hearing about the Buddhist Teachings from many sources -- especially from various monks and teachers. In some cases Dhamma is taught in very broad and vague terms to the point where it is difficult to know how to put it into practice in daily life. In other instances Dhamma is taught in high language or special jargon to the point where most people find it difficult to understand, especially if the teaching is done too literally from scripture. Lastly there is Dhamma taught in a balanced way, neither too vague nor too profound, neither too broad nor too esoteric -- just right for the listener to understand and practice to personally benefit from the Teachings. Today I would like share with you Teachings of the sort I have often used to instruct my disciples in the past; Teachings which I hope may possibly be of personal benefit to those of you here listening today.


One who wishes to reach the Buddha-Dhamma

One who wishes to reach the Buddha-Dhamma must firstly be one who has faith or confidence as a foundation. He must understand the meaning of Buddha-Dhamma as follows:
Buddha: the One-Who-Knows, the one who has purity, radiance and peace in his heart.

Dhamma: the characteristics of purity, radiance and peace which arise from morality, concentration and wisdom.

Therefore, one who is to reach the Buddha-Dhamma is one who cultivates and develops morality, concentration and wisdom within himself.


Walking the Path of Buddha-Dhamma

Naturally people who wish to reach their home are not those who merely sit and think of traveling. They must actually undertake the process of traveling step by step, and in the right direction as well, in order to finally reach home. If they take the wrong path they may eventually run into difficulties such as swamps or other obstacles which are hard to get around. Or they may run into dangerous situations in this wrong direction, thereby possibly never reaching home.

Those who reach home can relax and sleep comfortably -- home is a place of comfort for body and mind. Now they have really reached home. But if the traveler only passed by the front of his home or only walked around it, he would not receive any benefit from having traveled all the way home.

In the same way, walking the path to reach the Buddha-Dhamma is something each one of us must do individually ourselves, for no one can do it for us. And we must travel along the proper path of morality, concentration and wisdom until we find the blessings of purity, radiance and peacefulness of mind that are the fruits of traveling the path. However, if one only has knowledge of books and scriptures, sermons and sutras, that is, only knowledge of the map or plans for the journey, even in hundreds of lives one will never know purity, radiance and peacefulness of mind. Instead one will just waste time and never get to the real benefits of practice. Teachers are those who only point out the direction of the Path. After listening to the teachers, whether or not we walk the Path by practicing ourselves, and thereby reap the fruits of practice, is strictly up to each one of us.

Another way to look at it is to compare practice to a bottle of medicine a doctor leaves for his patient. On the bottle is written detailed instructions on how to take the medicine, but no matter how many hundred times the patient reads the directions, he is bound to die if that is all he does. He will gain no benefit from the medicine. And before he dies he may complain bitterly that the doctor wasn't any good, that the medicine didn't cure him! He will think that the doctor was a fake or that the medicine was worthless, yet he has only spent his time examining the bottle and reading the instructions. He hasn't followed the advice of the doctor and taken the medicine.

However, if the patient actually follows the doctor's advice and takes the medicine regularly as prescribed, he will recover. And if he is very ill, it will be necessary to take a lot of medicine, whereas if he is only mildly ill, only a little medicine will be needed to finally cure him. The fact that we must use a lot of medicine is a result of the severity of our illness. It's only natural and you can see it for yourself with careful consideration.

Doctors prescribe medicine to eliminate disease from the body. The Teachings of the Buddha are prescribed to cure disease of the mind, to bring it back to its natural healthy state. So the Buddha can be considered to be a doctor who prescribes cures for the ills of the mind. He is, in fact, the greatest doctor in the world.

Mental ills are found in each one of us without exception. When you see these mental ills, does it not make sense to look to the Dhamma as support, as medicine to cure your ills? Traveling the path of the Buddha-Dhamma is not done with the body. You must travel with the mind to reach the benefits. We can divide these travelers into three groups:

First Level: this is comprised of those who understand that they must practice themselves, and know how to do so. They take the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha as their refuge and have resolved to practice diligently according to the Teachings. These persons have discarded merely following customs and traditions, and instead use reason to examine for themselves the nature of the world. These are the group of "Buddhist believers."

Middle Level: This group is comprised of those who have practiced until they have an unshakable faith in the Teachings of the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Sangha. They also have penetrated to the understanding of the true nature of all compounded formations. These persons gradually reduce clinging and attachment. They do not hold onto things and their minds reach deep understanding of the Dhamma. Depending upon the degree of non-attachment and wisdom they are progressively known as stream-enterers, once-returners and nonreturners, or simply, Noble Ones.

Highest Level: This is the group of those whose practice has led them to the body, speech and mind of the Buddha. They are above the world, free of the world, and free of all attachment and clinging. They are known as Arahats or Free Ones, the highest level of the Noble Ones.


How to Purify One's Morality

Morality is restraint and discipline of body and speech. On the formal level this is divided into classes of precepts for lay people and for monks and nuns. However, to speak in general terms, there is one basic characteristic -- that is INTENTION. When we are mindful or self-recollected, we have right intention. Practicing self-recollection and mindfulness will generate good morality.

It is only natural that when we put on dirty clothes and our bodies are dirty, that out minds too will feel uncomfortable and depressed. However, if we keep our bodies clean and wear clean, neat clothes, it makes our minds light and cheerful. So too, when morality is not kept, our bodily actions and speech are dirty, and this is a cause for making the mind unhappy, distressed and heavy. We are separated from right practice and this prevents us from penetrating in the essence of the Dhamma in our minds. The wholesome bodily actions and speech themselves depend on mind, properly trained, since mind orders body and speech. Therefore, we must continue practice by training our minds.


Practice of Concentration Training

The training in concentration is practiced to make the mind firm and steady. This brings about peacefulness of mind. Usually our untrained minds are moving and restless, hard to control and manage. Mind follows sense distractions wildly just like water flowing this way and that, seeking the lowest level. Agriculturists and engineers, though, know how to control water so that it is of greater use to mankind. Men are clever, they know how to dam water, make large reservoirs and canals -- all of this merely to channel water and make it more useable. In addition the water stored becomes a source of electrical power and light, further benefits from controlling its flow so that it doesn't run wild and eventually settle into a few low spots, its usefulness wasted.

So too, the mind which is dammed and controlled, trained constantly, will be of immeasurable benefit. The Buddha Himself taught, "The mind that has been controlled brings true happiness, so train you minds well for the highest of benefits." Similarly, the animals we see around us -- elephants, horses, cattle, buffalo, etc., must be trained before they can be useful for work. Only after they have been trained is their strength of benefit to us.

In the same way, the mind that has been trained will bring many times the blessings of that of an untrained mind. The Buddha and His Noble Disciples all started out in the same way as us -- with untrained minds; but afterwards look how they became the subjects of reverence for us all, and see how much benefit we can gain through their teaching. Indeed, see what benefit has come to the entire world from these men who have gone through the training of the mind to reach the freedom beyond. The mind controlled and trained is better equipped to help us in all professions, in all situations. The disciplined mind will keep our lives balanced, make work easier and develop and nurture reason to govern our actions. In the end our happiness will increase accordingly as we follow the proper mind training.

The training of the mind can be done in many way, with many different methods. The method which is most useful and which can be practiced by all types of people is known as "mindfulness of breathing." It is the developing of mindfulness on the in-breath and the out-breath. In this monastery we concentrate our attention on the tip of the nose and develop awareness of the in- and out-breaths with the mantra word "BUD-DHO." If the meditator wishes to use another word, or simply be mindful of the air moving in and out, this is also fine. Adjust the practice to suit yourself. The essential factor in the meditation is that the noting or awareness of the breath be kept up in the present moment so that one is mindful of each in-breath and each out-breath just as it occurs. While doing walking meditation we try to be constantly mindful of the sensation of the feet touching the ground.

This practice of meditation must be pursued as continuously as possible in order for it to bear fruit. Don't meditate for a short time one day and then in one or two weeks, or even a month, meditate again. This will not bring results. The Buddha taught us to practice often, to practice diligently, that is, to be as continuous as we can in the practice of mental training. To practice meditation we should also find a suitably quiet place free from distractions. In gardens or under shady trees in our back yards, or in places where we can be alone are suitable environments. If we are a monk or nun we should find a suitable hut, a quiet forest or cave. The mountains offer exceptionally suitable places for practice.

In any case, wherever we are, we must make an effort to be continuously mindful of breathing in and breathing out. If the attention wanders to other things, try to pull it back to the object of concentration. Try to put away all other thoughts and cares. Don't think about anything -- just watch the breath. If we are mindful of thoughts as soon as they arise and keep diligently returning to the meditation subject, the mind will become quieter and quieter. When the mind is peaceful and concentrated, release it from the breath as the object of concentration. Now begin to examine the body and mind comprised of the five khandas: material form, feelings, perceptions, mental formations and consciousness. Examine these five khandas as they come and go. You will see clearly that they are impermanent, that this impermanence makes them unsatisfactory and undesirable, and that they come and go of their own -- there is no "self" running things. There is to be found only nature moving according to cause and effect. All things in the world fall under the characteristics of instability, unsatisfactoriness and being without a permanent ego or soul. Seeing the whole of existence in this light, attachment and clinging to the khandas will gradually be reduced. This is because we see the true characteristics of the world. We call this the arising of wisdom.

The Arising of Wisdom

Wisdom is to see the truth of the various manifestations of body and mind. When we use our trained and concentrated minds to examine the five khandas, we will see clearly that both body and mind are impermanent, unsatisfactory and soul-less. In seeing all compounded things with wisdom we do not cling or grasp. Whatever we receive, we receive mindfully. We are not excessively happy. When things of ours break up or disappear, we are not unhappy and do not suffer painful feelings -- for we see clearly the impermanent nature of all things. When we encounter illness and pain of any sort, we have equanimity because our minds have been well trained. The true refuge is the trained mind.

All of this is known as wisdom which knows the true characteristics of things as they arise. Wisdom arises from mindfulness and concentration. Concentration arises from a base of morality or virtue. All of these things, morality, concentration and wisdom, are so inter-related that it is not really possible to separate them. In practice it can be looked at in this way: first there is the disciplining of the mind to be attentive to breathing. This is the arising of morality. When mindfulness of breathing is practiced continuously until the mind is quiet, this is the arising of concentration. Then examination showing the breath as impermanent, unsatisfactory and not-self, and the subsequent non-attachment, is the arising of wisdom. Thus the practice of mindfulness of breathing can be said to be a course for the development of morality, concentration and wisdom. They all come together.

When morality, concentration and wisdom are all developed, we call this practicing the Eightfold Path which the Buddha taught as our only way out of suffering. The Eightfold Path is above all others because if properly practiced it leads directly to Nibbana, to peace. We can say that this practice reaches the Buddha-Dhamma truly and precisely.

Benefits from Practice

When we have practiced meditation as explained above, the fruits of practice will arise in the following three stages:

First, for those practitioners who are at the level of "Buddhist be faith," there will arise increasing faith in the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha. This faith will become the real inner support of each person. Also, they will understand the cause-and-effect nature of all things, that wholesome action brings wholesome result and that unwholesome action brings unwholesome result. So for such a person there will be a great increase in happiness and mental peace.

Second, those who have reached the noble attainments of stream-winner, once-returner or nonreturner, have unshakable faith in the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha. They are joyful and are pulled towards Nibbana.

Third, for those Arahats or Perfected Ones, there will be the happiness free from all suffering. These are the Buddhas, free from the world, complete in the Faring of the Holy Way.

We all have had the good fortune to be born as human beings and to hear the Teachings of the Buddha. This is an opportunity that millions of other beings do not have. Therefore do not be careless or heedless. Hurry and develop merits, do good and follow the path of practice in the beginning, in the middle and in the highest levels. Don't let time roll by unused and without purpose. Try to reach the truth of the Buddha's Teachings even today. Let me close with a Lao folk-saying: "Many rounds of merriment and pleasure past, soon it will be evening. Drunk with tears now, rest and see, soon it will be too late to finish the journey."

A Gift of Dhamma

(A Discourse delivered to the assembly of Western Monks, Novices and Lay-disciples at Bung Wai Forest Monastery, Ubon, on 10th October, 1977. This Discourse was offered to the parents of one of the monks on the occasion of their visit from France.)

I am happy that you have taken this opportunity to come and visit Wat Pah Pong, and to see your son who is a monk here, however I'm sorry I have no gift to offer you. France already has so many material things, but of Dhamma there's very little. Having been there and seen for myself, there isn't really any Dhamma there which could lead to peace and tranquillity. There are only things which continually make one's mind confused and troubled.

France is already materially prosperous, it has so many things to offer which are sensually enticing -- sights, sounds, smells, tastes and textures. However, people ignorant of Dhamma only become confused by them. So today I will offer you some Dhamma to take back to France as a gift from Wat Pah Pong and Wat Pah Nanachat.

What is Dhamma? Dhamma is that which can cut through the problems and difficulties of mankind, gradually reducing them to nothing. That's what is called Dhamma and that's what should be studied throughout our daily lives so that when some mental impression arises in us, we'll be able to deal with it and go beyond it.

Problems are common to us all whether living here in Thailand or in other countries. If we don't know how to solve them, we'll always be subject to suffering and distress. That which solves problems is wisdom and to have wisdom we must develop and train the mind.

The subject of practice isn't far away at all, it's right here in our body and mind. Westerners and Thais are the same, they both have a body and mind. A confused body and mind means a confused person and a peaceful body and mind, a peaceful person.

Actually, the mind, like rain water, is pure in its natural state. If we were to drop green coloring into clear rain water, however, it would turn green. If yellow coloring it would turn yellow.

The mind reacts similarly. When a comfortable mental impression "drops" into the mind, the mind is comfortable. When the mental impression is uncomfortable, the mind is uncomfortable. The mind becomes "cloudy" just like the colored water.

When clear water contacts yellow, it turns yellow. When it contacts green, it turns green. It will change color every time. Actually, that water which is green or yellow is naturally clean and clear. This is also the natural state of the mind, clean and pure and unconfused. It becomes confused only because it pursues mental impressions; it gets lost in its moods!

Let me explain more clearly. Right now we are sitting in a peaceful forest. Here, if there's no wind, a leaf remains still. When a wind blows it flaps and flutters. The mind is similar to that leaf. When it contacts a mental impression, it, too, "flaps and flutters" according to the nature of that mental impression. And the less we know of Dhamma, the more the mind will continually pursue mental impressions. Feeling happy, it succumbs to happiness. Feeling suffering, it succumbs to suffering. It's constant confusion!

In the end people become neurotic. Why? Because they don't know! They just follow their moods and don't know how to look after their own minds. When the mind has no one to look after it, it's like a child without a mother or father to take care of him. An orphan has no refuge and, without a refuge, he's very insecure.

Likewise, if the mind is not looked after, if there is no training or maturation of character with right understanding, it's really troublesome.

The method of training the mind which I will give you today is Kammatthana. "Kamma" means "action" and "thana" means "base." In Buddhism it is the method of making the mind peaceful and tranquil. It's for you to use in training the mind and with the trained mind investigate the body.

Our being is composed of two parts: one is the body, the other, the mind. There are only these two parts. What is called "the body," is that which can be seen with our physical eyes. "The mind," on the other hand, has no physical aspect. The mind can only be seen with the "internal eye" or the "eye of the mind." These two things, body and mind, are in a constant state of turmoil.

What is the mind? The mind isn't really any "thing." Conventionally speaking, it's that which feels or senses. That which senses, receives and experiences all mental impressions is called "mind." Right at this moment there is mind. As I am speaking to you, the mind acknowledges what I am saying. Sounds enter through the ear and you know what is being said. That which experiences this is called "mind."

This mind doesn't have any self or substance. It doesn't have any form. It just experiences mental activities, that's all! If we teach this mind to have right view, this mind won't have any problems. It will be at ease.

The mind is mind. Mental objects are mental objects. Mental objects are not the mind, the mind is not mental objects. In order to clearly understand our minds and the mental objects in our minds, we say that the mind is that which receives the mental objects which pop into it.

When these two things, mind and its object, come into contact with each other, they give rise to feelings. Some are good, some bad, some cold, some hot, all kinds! Without wisdom to deal with these feelings, however, the mind will be troubled.

Meditation is the way of developing the mind so that it may be a base for the arising of wisdom. Here the breath is a physical foundation. We call it Anapanasati or "mindfulness of breathing." Here we make breathing our mental object. We take this object of meditation because it's the simplest and because it has been the heart of meditation since ancient times.

When a good occasion arises to do sitting meditation, sit cross-legged: right leg on top of the left leg, right hand on top of the left hand. Keep your back straight and erect. Say to yourself, "Now I will let go of all my burdens and concerns." You don't want anything that will cause you worry. Let go of all concerns for the time being.

Now fix your attention on the breath. Then breathe in and breathe out. In developing awareness of breathing, don't intentionally make the breath long or short. Neither make it strong or weak. Just let it flow normally and naturally. Mindfulness and self-awareness, arising from the mind, will know the in-breath and the out-breath.

Be at ease. Don't think about anything. No need to think of this or that. The only thing you have to do is fix your attention on the breathing in and breathing out. You have nothing else to do but that! Keep your mindfulness fixed on the in-and out-breaths as they occur. Be aware of the beginning, middle and end of each breath. On inhalation, the beginning of the breath is at the nose tip, the middle at the heart, and the end in the abdomen. On exhalation, it's just the reverse: the beginning of the breath is in the abdomen, the middle at the heart, and the end at the nose tip. Develop the awareness of the breath: 1, at the nose tip; 2, at the heart; 3, in the abdomen. Then in reverse: 1, in the abdomen; 2, at the heart; and 3, at the nose tip.

Focusing the attention on these three points will relieve all worries. Just don't think of anything else! Keep your attention on the breath. Perhaps other thoughts will enter the mind. It will take up other themes and distract you. Don't be concerned. Just take up the breathing again as your object of attention. The mind may get caught up in judging and investigating your moods, but continue to practice, being constantly aware of the beginning, middle and the end of each breath.

Eventually, the mind will be aware of the breath at these three points all the time. When you do this practice for some time, the mind and body will get accustomed to the work. Fatigue will disappear. The body will feel lighter and the breath will become more and more refined. Mindfulness and self-awareness will protect the mind and watch over it.

We practice like this until the mind is peaceful and calm, until it is one. One means that the mind will be completely absorbed in the breathing, that it doesn't separate from the breath. The mind will be unconfused and at ease. It will know the beginning, middle and end of the breath and remain steadily fixed on it.

Then when the mind is peaceful, we fix our attention on the in-breath and out-breath at the nose tip only. We don't have to follow it up and down to the abdomen and back. Just concentrate on the tip of the nose where the breath comes in and goes out.

This is called "calming the mind," making it relaxed and peaceful. When tranquillity arises, the mind stops; it stops with its single object, the breath. This is what's known as making the mind peaceful so that wisdom may arise.

This is the beginning, the foundation of our practice. You should try to practice this every single day, wherever you may be. Whether at home, in a car, lying or sitting down, you should be mindfully aware and watch over the mind constantly.

This is called mental training which should be practiced in all the four postures. Not just sitting, but standing, walking and lying as well. The point is that we should know what the state of the mind is at each moment, and, to be able to do this, we must be constantly mindful and aware. Is the mind happy or suffering? Is it confused? Is it peaceful? Getting to know the mind in this manner allows it to become tranquil, and when it does become tranquil, wisdom will arise.

With the tranquil mind investigate the meditation subject which is the body, from the top of the head to the soles of the feet, then back to the head. Do this over and over again. Look at and see the hair of the head, hair of the body, the nails, teeth and skin. In this meditation we will see that this whole body is composed of four "elements': earth, water, fire and wind.

The hard and solid parts of our body make up the earth element; the liquid and flowing parts, the water element. Winds that pass up and down our body make up the wind element, and the heat in our body, the fire element.

Taken together, they compose what we call a "human being." However, when the body is broken down into its component parts, only these four elements remain. The Buddha taught that there is no "being" per se, no human, no Thai, no Westerner, no person, but that ultimately, there are only these four elements -- that's all! We assume that there is a person or a "being" but, in reality, there isn't anything of the sort.

Whether taken separately as earth, water, fire and wind, or taken together labelling what they form a "human being," they're all impermanent, subject to suffering and not-self. They are all unstable, uncertain and in a state of constant change -- not stable for a single moment!

Our body is unstable, altering and changing constantly. Hair changes, nails change, teeth change, skin changes -- everything changes, completely!

Our mind, too, is always changing. It isn't a self or substance. It isn't really "us," not really "them," although it may think so. Maybe it will think about killing itself. Maybe it will think of happiness or of suffering -- all sorts of things! It's unstable. If we don't have wisdom and we believe this mind of ours, it'll lie to us continually. And we alternately suffer and be happy.

This mind is an uncertain thing. This body is uncertain. Together they are impermanent. Together they are a source of suffering. Together they are devoid of self. These, the Buddha pointed out, are neither a being, nor a person, nor a self, nor a soul, nor us, nor they. They are merely elements: earth, water, fire and wind. Elements only!

When the mind sees this, it will rid itself of attachment which holds that "I" am beautiful, "I" am good, "I" am evil, "I" am suffering, "I" have, "I" this or "I" that. You will experience a state of unity, for you'll have seen that all of mankind is basically the same. There is no "I." There are only elements.

When you contemplate and see impermanence, suffering and not-self, there will no longer be clinging to a self, a being, I or he or she. The mind which sees this will give rise to Nibbida, world-weariness and dispassion. It will see all things as only impermanent, suffering and not-self.

The mind then stops. The mind is Dhamma. Greed, hatred and delusion will then diminish and recede little by little until finally there is only mind -- just the pure mind. This is called "practicing meditation."

Thus, I ask you to receive this gift of Dhamma which I offer you to study and contemplate in your daily lives. Please accept this Dhamma Teaching from Wat Pah Pong and Wat Pah Nanachat as an inheritance handed down to you. All of the monks here, including your son, and all the Teachers, make you an offering of this Dhamma to take back to France with you. It will show you the way to peace of mind, it will render your mind calm and unconfused. Your body may be in turmoil, but your mind will not. Those in the world may be confused, but you will not. Even though there is confusion in your country, you will not be confused because the mind will have seen, the mind is Dhamma. This is the right path, the proper way.

May you remember this Teaching in the future.

May you be well and happy.

Why: People have a reason for their behaviour

while reading an email, I came across this article that is really intresting and dharma inspriation.

Why?People have a reason for their behaviour

Why do people do what they do? Because they have reasons, that's why. But when their reasons are misunderstood or not understood, problems can arise. And often the problems are serious. Relationships may be torn apart, family members may squabble, violence may break out, and countries may go to war - all because of misunderstandings. But why are the intentions of others so difficult to decipher?

To answer this question, all we have to do is examine our own actions. Then, we will discover, as Aristotle (384 ~ 322 BC) has said, "All that we do is done with an eye to something else." That is, we often hide our true motives. For example, Betty visits Aunt Emma, not because there's nothing else she would rather do, but because she feels obligated. Francis may go to work 30 minutes early every day, not because he wants to, but because his manager does, and he feels pressured to do the same. If we wish to avoid misunderstandings, we need to stop looking AT the actions of others and start looking FOR the reasons behind their behaviour. Let's look at an example in greater detail.

Whenever Joanne speaks with her friend Lorraine, she always manages to slip a sentence into the conversation that goes like this, "Lorraine, you need to lose weight!" Why does Joanne do that? What's her motive? If you could read Joanne's heart, you would realize she is not saying, "Lorraine, you are fat!" What she is really saying is, "Lorraine, look at me; I'm so slim and beautiful!" Joanne wasn't trying to encourage Lorraine to lose weight, but was hoping Lorraine would compliment her for being so slim. You see, Joanne suffers from low self-esteem and is desperately seeking the approval of others. She is starving for recognition, approval, and love.

If we were to judge Joanne's words by their appearance, we could mistakenly assume that she is deliberately hurtful. Such a conclusion may cause us to grow angry, defensive, and vindictive. And those feelings may spur us to act rashly and end a relationship. Yet, if we were to see beyond the words, if we were to comprehend with our hearts instead of our minds, our feelings and conduct would be completely different. For once we realized that she wasn't really insulting us but crying out for help and pleading for approval, we would feel pity, not anger, and we would become compassionate, not vindictive. This change of view makes a big difference, doesn't it? For when we are compassionate, we contribute to the world, but when we take offense, we add more tension to the world. So, when people say cruel things, don't be hurt, be reasonable. Don't look AT their actions, but FOR their motives.

How do we probe into the root causes and find the reasons behind the conduct of others? One thing we can do is borrow a very useful tool from Japanese business management practices. When faced with a problem, rather than asking WHY once, they ask at least five times. Each time they ask WHY, they arrive at a deeper understanding and closer to the solution. Let's look at an example.

Nineteen-year-old Joey stabbed a man and stole his money. WHY did he do so? The answer in many quarters of the United States would be, "Because he is evil. He is a wicked person." What is the solution? "Lock him up! Put him in prison!" The first WHY we ask merely scratches the surface and offers superficial solutions.

Let's move on to the second WHY: "Why is Joey 'evil'? Why does he lack a conscience?" After probing deeper, we learn that Joey, unlike most children, did not receive any guidance while growing up. Now we come to WHY #3: "Why didn't Joey get any guidance as a child?" The answer is, we learn, because his father was an alcoholic and his mother was more concerned with her needs than those of her son.

Perhaps Joey didn't get any guidance at home, but why (WHY #4) wasn't he helped at school? Because a damaged (cracked) cup doesn't hold water. That is, constantly scolded by his parents, Joey believed he was incapable of learning at school. And failure to receive help from adults led to a build up of rage. "If no one cares about me," he thought, "I don't care about anyone."

But WHY (#5) didn't schools provide satisfactory counseling and set Joey straight? How could they with overcrowded classrooms, burned-out or unfit teachers, and government cuts that are draining schools of necessary resources?

When faced with the problem of Joey, what happens when we stop with WHY #1 and lock him up? Well, Joey loses his freedom, the world loses his potential contribution, his friends and family lose his company, and as soon as he is taken off the streets, he is replaced by another Joey. The 'solution,' it turns out, is not a solution, but a process that perpetuates the problem. Yet, if we were to dig deeper, and correct root causes like poverty, child abuse, and inadequate education, we could stop the endless parade of Joeys marching into prison. Yes, if were to take the time and make the effort to be thoughtful, we could make the world a safer and happier place.

We cannot make others greater by diminishing them and telling them they are criminals. Shall we lock up the blind because they refuse to see, the deaf because they won't listen, and the mute who won't answer? Why is it we don't hesitate to lock up the deprived? Of course, society needs protection, but let's not forget 'criminals' need HELP. Those who help the least among us become the greatest among us. By empowering others, they strengthen society.

It is not only criminals that need help. Almost everyone is in need. Stop for a moment and think of the pain you feel when someone criticizes you. Criticism can ruin your day, your week, or even your life. Now reverse this equation and try to imagine the power of a kind word or gentle touch. No wonder Dr. Leo(nardo) Felice Buscaglia (1924 ~ 1998) said, "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."

Yes, understanding the reasons behind the apparent rude behaviour of others can make us more compassionate. But that is just the beginning, for as we grow more spiritually aware we come to realize that all reasons, motives, and intentions are the same. Each person in their own way is seeking happiness. So, how can we find fault with them? If they occasionally stumble and step on our toes, can't we forgive them? At the highest spiritual level, we no longer look for or think about the motives of others. Instead, we accept them, love them, and see them for what they are in all their splendor. Let's accept the individuality of all and allow others to lead their lives as exclamations, not explanations.

Monday, October 31, 2005

GYL 2005 Part 2

As i promise this is the 2nd part of the GYL 2005


last pic taken b4 heading back to singapore.


isn't this beutiful sceniery

This is the bridge whr we see the sunrise
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This is my group team B
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Sunday, October 30, 2005


wat over there..Look!!!
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wow wow, this is the whole group brough to all our viewer from the coutesy of Sch of EEE n Buiness
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this is a grp pic from the Sch of EEE with our lecturers
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this a group pic of all the leaders from the Sch of Buiness with their lecturer
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anyway, we a re a big families. bearing no graduges n happy always.
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Look this poor guy is being bullied by us.haahaa. oooo we are so cruel
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heyhey, a new additional bro has join us in this families. welcome aboard.haahaa
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this is a families of brothers n sisters
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quick fast, januar falling,
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Look whis is wat we can do.haa
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the three maskerteer
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hey this me acting macho in here.haha
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another group pic with the gala comm.
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oooo it jus the three ranger trying to act as if they really look great.haa
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the pretty girls.....taking pic. hey hey wat goin on the back while taking the pic..
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making faces
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diff shot
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another pic of the gala comm
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group of the official of photographer
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group pic of the whole gala comm
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a closer look at the back. wat that. haahaa, i oso dunno.
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wat behind us?
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singing the 2nd song
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we singin a song while walking back the along the bridge. Can make a guess wat we singing.haa
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this is on the other side of the sunrise, nice?
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nice rite
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oooo it really nice
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Gek:"Look the sun is coming out, isn't it tat nice"
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hey hey group pic with the sunrise
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me taking a pic with the sunrise
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taking a shot along the brigde to get a clearer view of the sunset
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preparing to take the shot of the sunrise
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sunrise
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This is the sunrise which we took. isn't that nice.
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Batam GYL Camp 2005

Hello Ladies and Gentleman,
Here the Picture that i promise that i'll deliver for all to see. The gang of EEE n SB
that was over at Batam for the pass four day and three night.


Group Leader, Listen Up. Later on.......


OKOK Going to take the Ferry soon, Be patient.



Hey say cheese to the camera infront of you.



Eager look on all the leaders face



Yeah finally we going aboard the ferry...



Ok Gentleman n ladies, We have arrive at batam. pls queue up and get our passport chop...



Queuing up


Hey say cheese to the camera infront of you.


Walkin down the step in Turi beach resort



yup ladies n gentleman, post for a pic for the sch of eee



wahaha, finally had my first meal of the day in turi beach resort. yum yum great lunch



sign board welcoming us



snap shot of the turi beach resort swimming pool



swimming pool 2



scenery



gearing up for our first activities



Wat this are we doing?? haha building our raft with limited equipment..



OK finally our raft is ready to move off to the sea. Mr toh n Jeffery came joinin us to raft with us


this is jus another activities which i lead my team for the trekking



yeah hiphip hooray to our accomplish task..



nice scinery at the top.



nice view rite



nice scinery at the top.



Oh my wat this?? this is a airgun. the pallet contain paintball. we are gonna have a wargame with the opposite team to see who the last man standing.



The instructor is giving a safety briefing to all the leaders.



The facilitator n mr toh giving us a debrief on what we had done during the trekking n the paintball wargame.



this is another activities. learning to trust each other. with the game call trust fall. this is my most favourite game of all.



"Ready to Fall", "Ready to Catch".



This is also another good game. but i do not like this game at all. cus i am at the bottom base to support the fellow who at the top. shoulder very very the pain as all the weight is on you.



"hey hey becareful, support each other ok dun fall into the poison river."



"Arghhhhhh, watch it!! almost touching the string.", "feel so comfortable being carry over".



Having a swim after the raft. wat a great way to wash up rite...haaaa



Mr chee in our gourp to discuss on wat we gonna do when we return from batam as a first assignment for them. For me n some senior this isn;t the first time as i facilitate them into the discussion of the proj which we are currently doing n passing on the task n knowledge to the leaders.



another pic of me, ops i cun rem his name..haahaa,



this my rm



and this is whr i gonna slp on



of cus not forgetting this bro of mine who have been togehter with me for the pass three year. been buddin n bedding us since the first trip to cruise, thailand n now in batam.



hey hey, dun tik dirty wor... these two is our xiaomei who in the other rm.



arghhhh....wat am i doing....



Januar acting lame again.....haa



This my group tat we been together for the pass four days.,


Mr Toh n Mr Chee giving a venerable lesson on sex education on how to avoid n how to say no to pre-marital sex on this No Apologise workshop



group listenin tentatively to them as this has alway been the hottest topic in all young adult.



fast see who will be the 1st blow the balloon n burst first



hmm, dun like this mah. give it to me. i love u alot u noe...



with this big boob of my, i hope u will love me forever.



Sb gala comm, having a discussion in the nite together with us as we are all preparing for the third day gala dinner event. Look at them they may look shag, but they have lot of energy n ideas.



we are having a feast of our own from the eee



this is oso another group from sb side having a feast too


Oh my my,, the satay jus taste too gd..cun resist it anymore



oh yes the gala commitee is doing the last performance. Januar doin the rock n roll



here is an act of me approaching januar after he has whack my two son down



here lionel acted as king giving his speech in rap. announcing tat he goin to find a gy to marry his daughter


Finaleh by all the gala comm and getting everyone to join in the dance of the YMCA. All had a great fun n dance together.



After the whole event of the gala show, all the gala committee gather over at over rm to have a debrief on the whole gala event n feedback.



the comm from sb side oso giving feedback on the gala event too...all look shag as we spend many hour on preparing the event.



januar playing with light stick. he so overwhelm by that.haa


Well well guess i'll stop here for today, will continue to upload the last few remaining pic of all the group pic n sunrise later.